Took First in Canada, Eh?

Last year the Icebreakers went to Thunder Bay for the 1st time. We were invited for an exhibition weekend, and they didn't win a game. Although they had a good showing in Brainard - they were worried that the Canadian competition would be stiffer, and our girls were less than optimistic about their abilities to fare well as the only American team in this tournament.

First games were on Friday so the team planned to meet to caravan up to Canada at 7:30 a.m.. AOSB was planning on staying in Duluth with Grandma and Grandpa because he had his first series of basketball games also scheduled in Proctor this weekend. When push came to shove, though he wasn't ready for his family to leave without him - and we weren't ready to do so, either. So after a quick trip to the St. Louis County Courthouse to get his birth certificate, we hit the road about 1/2 an hour behind the rest of HG's teammates. We caught up to them at the border where they were all stopped as the Canadian border patrol was searching the coach's vehicle. Coach is from Canada and we don't know if they kicked him out and didn't want him back, or if they're just mad at him for deserting them, but they decided to make him pay. Worked out well for us to be able to travel the rest of the way with the team.

When we got to Canada we tried to check in. All of the rooms were not ready so our family went to grab lunch (a $26 meal at A&Ws if you can believe that - man are prices high there). Then we had our first game against the Dryden Flames. Twenty-seven seconds into game one HG scored the first goal of the tournament. This was the second year she scored the 1st goal of the 1st tournament of the year. The team scored a total f 13 goals that game. The other team did not score. HG's friend Maddy scored 5 goals (which were her 1st goals of the season) and earned MVP of the game!

After the game we went to the hotel to check-in. We stayed at the Victoria Inn - which has a nice pool area with a big water slide. We relaxed a little before the 2nd game against the McDonald's Sharks. Girls played well in game two also. HG scored another goal. The team scored 8 goals in all and won the game 8-0. Another one of the new girls, Daisy, scored her 1st goal of the season and she was honored with MVP for that game. She was so proud and everyone was so excited for her! That evening the girls got to enjoy the swimming pool and we all ate pizza for dinner.

Saturday we had one game for sure, and if we won that game, we would get a bye into the semi-finals. Our game wasn't until noon so we got to sleep in and eat a leisurely breakfast at the hotel. We played the Esso Tigers in game 3, and beat them 7-0. It was the best team we had played and our goalie finally was put to work - so she was named MVP. That meant we had the whole afternoon and evening to play. Many of the girls, some of their Moms and a couple of Dads went to the Mall. It was a pretty big centre with a lot of stores we didn't recognize and a few we did. The food court was interesting with a lot of options we weren't used to. HG and I ate Asian noodles - yum! Girls enjoyed an accessory store called Adrene's and Claires. We went back and it was time for more pool action. We had an early game on Sunday and apparently grown-ups had been up too late the night before because everyone was pretty much in for the night around 10 p.m..

The semi-final game was at 8:15 Sunday morning. We were at the rink by 7:30 and the girls played the Redwings in the semi-final game. We won that game 8-0. Our defense controlled that game and made many of the goals. One of them, Hayley, was awarded MVP. After the game everyone went back to pack up and check out. HG and AOSB were staving so we made a quick stop at McDs. Adults were waiting to eat with the group before the championship game. We went to Joe's Family Restaurant at 11:00 a.m. and ate brunch.

Our final game was at 1:00 p.m.. We played the McDonald's Bears in the championship game. They had also won all of the games they had played, so despite our successes, we couldn't get complacent. The first period was quite competitive and we only scored one goal. Second period the girls took off and scored a few more goals quickly. The Bears did manage to prevent a tournament shut out by scoring one goal in the second period. That was the only goal they scored, though, and the final score was 7-1. Makayla was MVP that game, and the girls took home November Chill Tournament Champion trophies. The ride home was very uneventful.

As much as I have never really liked hockey, and as much as I resisted letting our children play, I have to say, I love this team. The families are great - fun to spend time with and just all around good people. The girls all mostly get along. They are inclusive of each other - even with the new girls. They are supportive and considering how competitive they are on the ice - off the ice they are respectful of each other. This is going to be a fun season!

Are they alike or different?

Almost every time I meet someone knew and they find out I have twins they ask me if they're identical. Then I tell them they are a boy and a girl and they ask me if they're personalities are the same or different. I always say they're complete opposites - and then I rethink it. They're alike in so many ways, but then they're completely different too.

The Same But Different

1. They're both athletic but Hockey Girl has balance and speed and All Other Sports Boy has great eye/hand coordination.

2. They're both pretty smart but AOSB is a great reader, speller and creative writer while HG loves math, science and art.

3. They're both popular among their peers. HG has a lot of friends, but she does not mind being alone, and she does not like to be the center of attention. On the other hand, AOSB is very social, he makes friends easily with anyone, he loves to be the center of attention.

4. They both enjoy picking on the other but HG does not seem to care if her brother is mad at her. She will stand her ground in a disagreement while AOSB likes to irritate his sister, but when push comes to shove, he is a peacekeeper and he will give in.

Exactly the Same

They have been within 1/2 lb of each other in their weights since birth. They have been and still are the same height since before age 1. They have the same eyes and the same hair color and skin tone.

Completely Different

HG was a difficult baby who needed a lot of attention. She has always been a worrier. She has a lot of anxiety and hates change. She is extremely responsible. She has long had the ability to look many steps ahead and figure out long range consequences. She doesn't like to make mistakes. She is inherently cautious, yet she is strangely adventurous when it comes to physical tasks like rock climbing. She is very sure of her physical abilities. She is less confident about her other abilities and she likes to be behind the scenes.

AOSB was a very laid back baby and young child. He seldom demanded attention, letting it go to his sister who he knew needed it more. He lives in the moment - seldom worrying about the future. He jumps into everything head first. He doesn't care if he makes a mistake. He is quick to forgive and expects to be forgiven quickly, as well. He has always had an uncanny ability to memorize facts, lyrics and dialog. He has always loved to perform.

It's fun to think about their distinct personalities. It is a great life lesson to have two children who are growing up in the same environment have very distinct strengths and weaknesses. It is fun to watch them grow, change and learn from each other. They balance each other out. I know they look out for each other too, and that makes it less scary to think about the years ahead when they may need to make tough choices.

The Big Apple Day #4

Monday Nov. 3rd was our last full day in NYC. We started the day at our hotel eating breakfast. We were joined by the Buffalo Sabres hockey team. We wished the kids were there. they would have been very excited. We once again planned to meet the Finns at Rockefeller Center. We had decided before we left the hotel that we wanted to stop at M&M World to buy gifts for the Finns' kids. We had 10 minutes if we wanted to be on time. It took us about 1/2 an hour - so of course we were late again. We found some cute t-shirts and of course, M&Ms. We met the Finns outside of the NBC Studio store. The NBC Plaza was hopping and being turned into Election Plaza. The Rockefeller Center Ice Rink has a big map etched into it and they were going to . They were decorating it as Election Plaza. It was very exciting to think about the election the next day. The Finns were making plans to watch it - and I was suddenly very jealous that they were going to be in NYC and we would be back in Minnesota. It would have been SO great to be in Rockefeller Plaza or Times Square when the election was called!

The Finns wanted to do the NBC Studio Tour, and Mom thought it would be fun to join them. Kevin and I had already done the tour, so we decided that we would go shopping instead. We hadn't really gotten anything significant for the kids, so we went to the NHL store and found some cute Rangers lounge pants for Hannah and the NBA store - to try find something for Noah. No success. We did decide that we wanted to get him a duffel bag, but they didn't have anything there we liked. Afterwards we met everyone back at the Studio Store. We decided to grab lunch at the Variety Cafe, which is a great cafeteria-style restaurant we had discovered in December. They have just about any kind of food you can imagine. They have a pasta bar from which Kevin ate, and I had spicy Sweet Chili Noodles with shrimp (of course) cooked on the Hibachi - YUM!

After lunch the Finns planned more shopping. Mom, Kevin and I headed uptown to Columbia University where we were planning to meet my friend Alena who is a graduate student there. We had no problem finding her and she was kind enough to give us a tour of the campus. We had a lot of fun. The school is, of course, beautiful. I just love the feel of old university campuses. The architecture was very interesting and we had a nice time wandering around and catching up on Alena's life. We saw St. John's Cathedral - the largest cathedral in the world. We also saw the diner that Jerry always ate in on Seinfeld (one of Kevin's all-time favorite television shows). We spent some time (and money) in the book store. Kevin added to his law school t-shirt collection. I got a sweatshirt and we found a nice Columbia duffel bag for Noah.

After we left Alena we took the subway back down to Macy's. Mom wanted to find a special outfit for an upcoming award ceremony, so we went shopping. I had forgotten how HUGE that Macy's is - a full LONG block deep and 7 stories high. I also apparently forgot where it was since I old the Finns we'd meet them on the corner of 34th Street and 5th Avenue - outside of Macy's. Unfortunately, Macy's is between 7th Ave. and 6th Ave./Broadway - not 5th Avenue. So, come time to meet, we don't know where they will be. We walked down to 34th and 5th Avenue - which is where the restaurant we planned to eat at (the Heartland Brewery) was. Then when they weren't there, Kevin went back to Macy's and he found them - whew! We had a nice final meal together. The guys had plenty of beer. I had 1/2 of a big, old hamburger (instead of shrimp) and we even had a wonderful brownie sundae for dessert. A very classic American meal.

After dinner we went back up to Times Square. We said our goodbyes to the Finns with promises to meet again soon - in Finland we all hope. We found our bus and had an uneventful trip back to New Jersey. It's always sad to leave New York. Who knows when we'll be back again.

As Smart as a Fifth Grader

We had conferences for Hockey Girl and AOS Boy last night. I think we're pretty aware of the strengths and weaknesses of our kids, but it's always interesting to have the first conference with this year's teacher to see if they are the same kids in school as they are at home. For the most part I'd say they are. Hockey Girl is probably the most different at school. According to her teacher, Mrs. S., at school she is very responsible - at home she is pretty responsible, unless responsibility includes brushing your teeth and hair without being told, putting your dirty clothes in the hamper or down the laundry chute or keeping your desk organized. Apparently she is so responsible at school that she keeps Mrs. S. and her brother in line if given the opportunity. Mrs. S. has a hard time picturing HG as a hockey player. She absolutely couldn't believe that she lead her team in penalty minutes last year - but she did. HG's grades were okay. We (including Mrs. S. - she said she double checked it) were all a little surprised at her C in Language Arts (also known as grammar and writing). Apparently she only likes to do the minimum required and she doesn't like to correct or edit her work (who can blame her). So, she has to try a little harder to bring that grade up! Everything else was just fine - As in Science/Health and Spelling and B+s in Math and Social Studies.


It's always a little frightening when a conference starts out with, "let me start with, he has really turned it around in the past month..." Hmmmm. Turned it around from what? Apparently Mrs. L was really worried about AOS Boy at the beginning of the year. He just wasn't doing what he was supposed to. He failed to turn in homework on time 10 times in the first 3 weeks. He told Mrs. L that it was *my fault. I always took it out of his folder and forgot to put it back. Finally when she picked up the phone, asked him for my number and told him she was going to call me, he fessed up. *That is exactly what he is like at home. Lying to avoid personal responsibility until you call him to the carpet and he has no place else to go. He has reportedly come a long way in a short time. He has not had a late or missing homework assignment in two weeks. He is generally "acting like a 5th grader." He is a pretty smart kid. He has had perfect spelling tests this year. His reading tests were nearly perfect (but he only will do one book report every other week so he's just at grade level, as opposed to above grade level). He had an A in Spelling and Social Studies, and A- in Math a B in Science/Health and a B- in Language Arts. He was pretty disappointed in that B- and told us he know what he has to do to bring that up is increase his effort. He loves to write, he is very creative and comes up with great stories - but capitalization, punctuation and sentence structure are not very high on his list. Again not much of a surprise. He was a little disappointed that he did not get an E in gym (although his sister did).

Overall, we were pretty pleased. The kids aren't perfect, they're not genius', but they seem to like school, they try, they're pleasant to be around and teachers enjoy having them in class. Those things get people at least as far in life as perfect grades.

The Big Apple Day #3 - Marathon Day

Today was the day the Finns were waiting for. The NYC Marathon (like all marathons) is a 26.2 miles race that (unlike other marathons) takes the runners through all five boroughs of NYC. The runners start on the Verizano Bridge in Staten Island, they run to Brooklyn, Queens, the Bronx and finally Manhattan finishing in Central Park. It was a cool day, but a pretty good day for running - a little too windy at some points. We had discussed what everyone would be wearing and we had made a plan to try to see them between miles 16 1/2 and 17. We got an approximate time that they should arrive, if they ran the pace they expected. We said we would be on the West side of 1st Ave. Having never been to the NYC meaning we didn't know the course, and knowing that there were 40,000 runners, we were skeptical that we would succeed in seeing them, but we decided to try. Again we took the NJ Transit bus into Times Square. We took a subway to Central Park and we watched the top women come in. We saw the top three finishers. I was able to get photos of #1 and #2, but my camera wouldn't cooperate with getting a photo of #3 - who just happened to be the top American, Kara Goucher, who is from Duluth!! In her marathon debut she became the 1st American to grace the podium at the NYC Marathon in 14 years. She also had the best debut race time in that marathon ever. What a thrill to have "been there" - guess I'll just have to remember it since it's not documented for all time.

Walking up 5th Avenue, we leisurely made our way from Central Park to 65th Street. We stumbled upon temple Emmanu-El (which is the first Reform congregation in NYC). The beauty of the building rivals any Cathedral I've ever seen. From there we made our way to the race course on 1st Avenue. As we got close to the course it was clear that it would not be easy to get to the edge of the street. We walked up a few blocks and staked out the spot we would stay to try to fill-in as people left when their runner went buy. It was not yet 12:30 when we got there, and we expected the runners to come by about 1:00 p.m. We started to look for them - watching for a man and woman running together both wearing white hats. Kevin tried to get a spot earlier on the route so he could spot them and call us, but before I ever heard from him we saw them - well two of them, Ulla and Antti were running together. Olli ran alone. I even was able to get a picture (Ulla is in the middle and you can almost see Antti's face behind the runner in the I love Harlem shirt)!

It was very fun! We stayed a bit to see if we could find Olli, but it turns out he had already run by. We had tickets to see Wicked at 3:00 p.m. so we left to make our way back to the theater. We had gotten the tickets the day before and we were SO lucky. We were in the 4th row in the center section. It was fantastic!! The show was wonderful - although the leads didn't seem to sing as well as the ones we remembered from Chicago. Nevertheless we enjoyed it immensely! It's definitely better when you have the soundtrack memorized. After the show we went to dinner at Pongsai - a Thai restaurant in the theater district, and I had (surprise, surprise) Shrimp Pad Thai. It was very good. We got home fairly early that night - in time for Kevin to use the nightly free drink available at Embassy Suites. We watched some TV and relaxed. It was a great day!

Big Apple Day #2

Saturday morning after a wonderful cooked breakfast at our hotel we made our way to Manhattan via NJ Transit. We were meeting the Finns at Rockefeller Plaza at 10:00 a.m.. We were, as expected by anyone who know my mother and me, a little late but we found them without a problem. We bought tickets to go to the Top of the Rock. We tried to get tickets for the NBC Studios Tour as well, but the tours was closed by the Secret Service as John McCain was appearing on SNL that night. We went up to the 67th floor and I took this photo of Midtown. We also had fantastic views of Central Park and the Hudson River (see below). We had access to three floors and we were able to be outside. The weather was perfect and it was just beautiful.

After we left the Rock we made our way via the subway to the southern tip of Manhattan to catch the infamous Staten Island Ferry. The Finns wanted to see the Statute of Liberty, but didn't feel the need to actually visit it. We went to the terminal and it has been significantly renovated since I was last there. It was really quite nice. We lined up with hundreds of others for our now free ride to Staten Island(it used to cost a quarter, but they must have decided the work involved in collecting quarters from the passengers cost more than they made doing it - so you can just walk on and off. Since it was a Saturday, most of the people on the Ferry appeared to be tourists like us rather than commuters. If you ride on the right side of the Ferry going over you have a nice view of the Statute and of Ellis Island.

When we got to Staten Island, we boarded the Ferry to go back to Manhattan. The Finns got to see the Verizano Bridge - which is where the NYC Marathon would start the next day. We also saw the Brooklyn Bridge. Once back in the City we made our way to Chinatown and Little Italy to eat dinner. On the way we passed the Courthouse area which was particularly interesting to Olli and he is a lawyer in Finland. We saw the steps seen routinely in Law and Order. We had chosen to eat in Little Italy because the Finns needed to carboload for the big race on Sunday. Last winter we had taken the kids to NYC for their 10th birthday and we had eaten a special meal at DaNico's on Mulberry St., so we decided we could recommend it. We were able to get a lovely table in the back garden, and again the weather was so perfect for outside dining. All of the food was good. I had a wonderful shrimp and spinach ravioli with a bolognese sauce (2nd shrimp meal). Ulla's seafood dish was something amazing to behold. I thought I had a picture, but I can't find it so you'll have to take my word for it - the bowl was huge and filled with shrimp, lobster, clams and other yummy things in a garlic butter sauce.

After dinner the Finns wanted to go back to their hotel to rest up. they had to be up at about 4:30 a.m. to eat breakfast because they were catching a 6 a.m. bus to Staten Island for the start of the race. Kevin went up with them to see if he could get discounted tickets to anything at the TKTS booth in Times Square. Mom and I stayed in Chinatown to shop. We did not find any great deals. We were most amazed by the inexpensive prices of the seafood stands. Kevin called and said that he had gotten 1/2 price tickets to Spamalot, so we made our way back up to Times Square. We went to Toys R Us to get presents for the kids and then went to the theater. Our seats were a little far off to the right of the stage, but as Monty Python fans we thoroughly enjoyed the show. We got an extra kick out of the Finnish jokes in the program and the opening fish slap dance scene. We got back to the hotel in time to see John McCain on SNL.

We interrupt this NYC Trip blog

with a hockey update...

Duluth Icebreakers 10U team went to Breezy Point and rocked the house. They played the Pequot Lakes 10U team on Saturday at Noon. You may remember (or you can read below in Tis the Season) that there was some conflict regarding what level Hockey Girs team should play at - A or B. The Pequot Lakes team was a B level - and any doubts about whether we should play A were answered this weekend. The girls smoked them. They won their first game 12 - 0. Hockey Girl didn't score, but she had plenty of assists. They then went to Brainard to play their 10UB team and they beat them 19 - 1. Hockey Girl scored her 1st goal of the year. Saturday night we had much fun hanging out with the team at the pool area of the beautiful Breezy Point Resort. We had lots of snacks, pizza and a few drinks to boot. Most of the team stayed at the dorms by the hockey rink, but Hockey Girl and her BFF were having none of that (and their parents were glad to spoil them if meant we also didn't have to stay in the dorms). Our families rented a beautiful condo by the lake. It was huge and lovely and since no one wants to be in Breezy Point in mid-November quite inexpensive to boot. Sunday we woke up early because we'd been lead to believe we had a game at 9:15 a.m. We had a great breakfast at the resort - cooked to order French Toast for the kids, Eggs Benedict for Curling Man and BFF's Mom and poched eggs for me along with a lovely buffet with a lot of fresh fruit and plenty of unhealthy side-dishes. We made it to the rink about 8:30 only to discover that the game wasn't actually until 11 a.m.. The girls went back over to the dorms to do some warm-ups and chalk-talk. BFF's Mom and I went back to the condo to pack up and check out. We returned to the rink for game 2 against Pequot Lakes. They again beat them handily 12 -1 and Hockey Girl scored 2 more times. It was a fun series of games. We just hope the girls don't get too complacent because the competition in the tournament coming up in a couple of weeks in Thunder Bay will be much stiffer.

Welcome to the Big Apple

Curling Man (who isn't curling this year by the way so I should probably change his name) and I went to NYC with my Mom. We left the evening of Oct. 30th for Minneapolis because our flight left from there at 7 a.m.. We got a very decent Stay and Park rate at an Embassy Suites right by the Minneapolis/St. Paul airport. It was exactly what one would expect from an Embassy Suites (which is a fine thing). We left the hotel about 5:30 p.m. for the airport. We were flying Air Tran which meant that we got to leave from the H.H.Humphrey Terminal - a nice small terminal. Everything went very smoothly. Because we were flying Air Tran we had to take the scenic route to Newark - through Atlanta. All flights were on time - actually a little early. We landed in New Jersey and took a taxi to our hotel in Seacacus/Meadowlands, NJ - another Embassy Suites. Our room was laid out exactly like the one we had just left in Minnesota. We unpacked and tried to call Ulla to let her know we were there.

Ulla was my exchange sister during the 1985-86 school year. She is from Finland. She and her husband Antti and her brother Olli and his wife Mari all were in New York for the marathon. All of them except Mari were running and she was cheering. They were staying with a group at a hotel near Central Park. We had exchanged cell phone numbers, but I couldn't figure out how to dial hers (because of the country code issue). I left a message on the hotel room phone, but we did not connect. We decided that we would just go to their hotel and see if we could find them as it would be nearing 5 p.m. by the time we got there. Transportation to Manhattan was so incredibly easy. NJTransit had a bus with a stop directly across the street from the front door of the hotel. The bus comes every 10 - 20 minutes depending on the time of day. It is a commuter line so it only made a couple of stops before going into the City to the Port Authority Bus Terminal which is conveniently located in Times Square. We got off the bus and made our way to the hotel which was no more than a mile away. We thought about getting something to eat, but we were on a mission. We found their hotel without any problem. We went in and it was clear that it was NYC Marathon European Headquarters. There were lots of foreigners there and a lot of information about the marathon in many different languages. I found a house phone and called the rooms again. Just as I was getting ready to leave a message in Olli ad Mari's room - who should walk in the door but the Finns - how great!! We had a warm reunion and we let them go to their hotel room while we ran across the street to the Carnegie Deli. I always need to have Matzoh Ball soup when I'm in NYC and Kevin loves the REALLY BIG sandwiches.

After our "snack" we met up with the Finns to head downtown to watch the Greenwich Village Halloween Parade. We had the parade route figured out and we decided to try to catch it at 14th Street. We took the Subway to Union Square, walked a bit towards the route and when we got there, we promptly realized that the crowds were going to make actually seeing the parade very difficult. It was a Friday night and the weather was beautiful. We found a spot down the block and settled in to watch the crowd - they were almost as entertaining as the parade I am sure. The NYPD was out in full force, so we never felt unsafe, but there were definitely some characters out for the holiday. We were able to catch some of the parade - the really tall puppets that went above the crowd, but we definitely had a restricted view. After about an hour of the parade we decided to head back to Times Square to eat dinner. We went to Bubba Gump Shrimp Company for the first of my many shrimp meals.

My village

Hillary Clinton once said "it takes a village to raise a child." I am so thankful for my village. We have very wonderful family, but sometimes they're just not enough. Curling Man and I went to New York City for 5 days. We left the night before Halloween. That means we were not here to orchestrate trick-or-treating. Hockey Girl was invited to a party that included a sleep-over, but she had to get there. Curling Man's parents came to take care of the kids, but they're not familiar with Duluth so asking them to drive the kids everywhere was complicated by needing to leave very specific driections. So, I relied on the 1st Villager to pick up Hockey Girl to take her to the party. Party Girl's Mom then said that she would keep Hockey Girl and bring her to soccer try-outs since Party Girl was going there the next day anyway - Villager #2. Halloween night All-other-sports Boy went to a friend's house to go trick-or-treating and friend's parents agreed to bring him home so the in-laws wouldn't have to worry about what time t-or-ting ended - Villager #3. Saturday night and Sunday a.m. Hockey Girl had hockey practice. Coach's wife (Villager #4) agreed to bring her to and from practice (and would have even taken her overnight had we not said she really should stay at home since she'd had a sleep-over the night before). Sunday night AOS Boy had basketball practice and Villager #5 picked him and brought him to/from that practice. Monday my kids went, as they always do an Mondays and Wednesdays, to VIllager #6's house. She takes them to Hebrew School all year long. Tuesday the ILs headed home before school let out. My kids went to Villager #4s house after school. Eventhough she had already voted and her kids had already voted, she took my kids to the polls so they could cast their votes for Kids Vote. Villager #5 again brought AOS Boy to/from basketball practice that night. Villager #7 never actually had to help, but she had been lined up to bring Hockey Girl to soccer and AOS Boy to play auditions (which he didn't end up doing). We are SO incredibly lucky to have all of these wonderful people in our lives and even more importantly in our kids' lives. They regularly are surrounded by people who value them, who assist them and who care for them. So very lucky they are! We hope that these people know we are happily a part of their village as well.

Making History

I just can't believe it, so I have to write it down. Barack Obama is the President. I have never voted for a President that I just felt so comfortable even happy voting for. Other presidents have matched my general views, but I didn't trust them. I didn't like them. I wasn't proud of them. I didn't think they had the power to transform our image internationally. Barack Obama is different. I know a lot of people felt this way about Bill Clinton - I wasn't one of them - although I voted for him once. I also voted for Dukakis, for Perot, for Gore and for Kerry. I didn't love any of them, but they were all better in my opinion than the alternative. This year I was lucky. Instead of choosing between "not so great" and "even worse" I got to choose between "phenomenal" and "I can live with it." What a relief. If John McCain would have been the McCain of 2000 I would have even had a better choice, but alas he chose to be anything but a maverick and to cater to the Religious Right in hopes of being elected. Despite what I hear from conservative pundits - that it was all about the economy and not about the VP candidate - I firmly believe that if John McCain would have stuck to his principles and made his VP pick selecting another qualified, moderate, independent-minded person, he would have had a chance in this race. Yes, the economy was a factor, but only because people had already lost trust in John McCain. If people believed that John McCain would recognize his actual short-comings and surround himself to compensate for those, instead of making his decisions to pander to the base whose policies created this mess - on other words if he was maverick he claimed to be - the economy wouldn't necessarily have been a game changer. I'm not complaining. I'm glad he made that poor choice which opened the door for Barack Obama to step in. He may not have the experience of John mcCain, but he is smart and he can learn. His character, his manner and what he brings to the table as a leader cannot be taught to anyone. I am so excited to see our country being lauded all over the world. It's a great thing!!

And then there's basketball

Contrary to popular belief in Northern MN, November does not just mean the beginning of hockey season, it also means the beginning of basketball season. And this year, basketball will be almost as time and energy-consuming as hockey. We are now the proud parents of an A Team basketball layer - that means we get to travel - yay (not)! All-other-sports Boy (AOSB) is, of course, ecstatic that he also gets to travel and participate in tournaments. He no longer has to just be the Icebreakers Superfan, but he gets to play! We get to try to figure out who will go where with whom if there are conflicts. It's hard to decide what is better - tournaments on the same weekend when we can't be together or tournaments on separate weekends which allow us to travel together, but which leave us with less time at home on the weekends. When are we supposed to do laundry and go grocery shopping? We can hardly complain - we are so lucky to have kids who have the desires and skills to excel at the sports they want to play. They learn so much from being on sports teams. They get a lot of exercise. They make lasting friendships. It's mostly good - maybe we can just hire someone to do the laundry.

'Tis the Season

Of course when I say "the season" I mean the hockey season. Not that hockey doesn't go on all year, because of course it does, but it's now really the official season. Being a hockey Mom this season has a little bit of new meaning - after all, everyone is checking to see if you're wearing your lipstick and to see how much you resemble a Pit Bull. I can't think of one thing I have in common with Sarah Palin (except the obvious xx chromosomes and the characteristics that come with them). I certainly am not her brand of Hockey Mom - no lipstick and no bullish tendancies, pit or otherwise. I am looking forward to another great year with the best hockey parents I know - the ones with girls on Hockey Girl's team.

There was a lot of drama in getting the team going this year. Would they have enough girls? What level should they play at? How can we balance the need for good competition against travelling all over MN and Canada to play our games? They ended up being a 10U A team - which means that they are playing girls hockey (one option was being a Squirt B team - which is in the regular league that allows 9-10 y.o. boys and girls to play together, but as a practical matter there is generally only 1 or 2 girls per team) at the highest level they can for this age group. Biggest problem with this idea is that there aren't very many 10U A teams unless we drive 2+ hours to get to them. Some parents (most notably Curling Man) thought they should be a 10U B team. That would allow them to play the more local area teams. Last year, when our girls were a year younger and most of those teams had girls a year older, we beat all but one of those teams every time we played them. Now our girls are the oldest they can be and still play at this level - so we don't see the other teams as being much competition. But how much competition do 10 y.o. girls need? Maybe it'd just be fun to play together and win a bunch of games - so thought Curling Man. Coaches had a different idea, and they stood firm - so an A team theya re. This means our first games will be in Brainard, then Thunder Bay. After that we'll also see St. Paul and Detroit Lakes. Who knows where else, we'll play. Who knows if we'll win or lose. Being the non-pitbullish Hockey Mom, I don't care. Just give me my hot chocolate, my hand warmers and the other non-Palinesque Moms to chat with on the bleachers.

Happy New Year!

I know it's not the New Year for many of you, but for us Jews - it is. I have only been a Jew officially for about 7 years (despite my Dad and his family being Jewish - long story) - man, I can't believe it's been 7 years.... Anyway the New Year starting in September just works for me. I think it's because I spent so many years in school, but I always feel like this is the time to start anew. So in the spirit of the New Year - I want to look back at the last year and think about the year ahead. As a Jew part of my reflection on the last year is supposed to focus on the things I did that I'm not so proud of. I'm supposed to make amends with any people I've hurt. I'm supposed to repent and pray and then I can truly start anew. I join most Jewish parents in reflecting on what the relationships with people around me. I think I'm a pretty good daughter. My Mom and I have a great relationship. I try to spend time with her and support her. I try not to take advantage of her natural giving spirit. I express my appreciation when she gives of her time, talents or with things. I also have a good relationship with my Dad. We spend less time together, but we get closer every year. He is fighting cancer at the moment, so the next year will be a little scary until that is done. The idea that names are sealed in the Book of Life on Yom Kippur weighs heavily on my mind. I don't normally take that literally, but it's hard not to in this circumstance. I don't think I'm as good of a mother as I am a daughter - it's a lot harder. I am not as patient as I should be. I lose my temper and I yell. It's not good modeling for them. I do try to give my children my time and attention, but that is also hard because we are so busy. I am certainly supportive in terms of providing opportunities and attending various extracurricular activities. I do know the children know I love them. They come to me when they have questions or concerns or need help. They are affectionate. They are generally good kids, so they aren't suffering too much for my inadequecies. As a wife, I have still more work to do. My patience level with Curling Man is also not as high as it should be. We are too independent - and not interdependent enough. I don't express my appreciation enough for the many things he does for our family. We don't spend enough time talking about what's working and what's not in our lives. Time slips by and the kind word is left unsaid - and only problems get discussed. I am not the counselor at law that I should be. I have many days when I am frustrated at work. Some of my clients are particulalrly needy and negative. I am not as generous as I would like to be with my time, attention and sympathy. I find myself being judgmental and ultimately short with them. I then find myself escaping by turning to the internet or facebook during the day. I am in essence stealing time from my employer. I am a good colleague. My co-workers can depend on my to listen and to help when help is needed. I am a pretty good friend. I do nurture my relationships with people I care about. I may not be in contact with all of them as often as I might like, but they are not negelected. I am not always so good to myself. I don't take care of myself all of the time. I have put on weight in the last year. I didn't exercise much and I haven't dealt with stress very proactively.

So, for the next year - what will I work on. I have started with myself. I have a renewed commitment to taking care of my physical self. I am doing LA Weight Loss or 26 weeks. I am starting week 4 and I am down 8 pounds. It is not easy. I am such an emotional eater. I think about food all of the time. It's so hard to find time to cook healthily, and I don't like many vegetables. The program does seem to work. The accountability is good for me. I go about 2 times per week. I have more energy and more desire to exercise, which is a very good thing. I do think I will lose the 35 pounds I have decided to lose. Because I am committed to eating healthier - my family also benefits - I buy better food to eat at home and we eat out less. I also have found myself taking Hockey girl out hiking and doing more active things with her. I am modeling a healthier lifestyle, as well. I will also work on my patience. I think the more organized can be, the less likely I am to get behind and feel stressed - which will allow me to be more patient. It will also free up time to spend with Curling Man and the kids. I can't believe how much the kids have grown up in the past year. They have matured a lot. They still fight - which drives me crazy and contributes to my stress-level and lack of patience, but it's less then it used to be. They are coming home after school togther, and they have been doing their homework, being responsible and not fighting. It's a pleasure. I am going to be a better wife and a better employee. It's going to be a good new year! L'Shanah Tovah!

They Won, They Won

Okay - another post about sports... The Central Little League 9/10 y.o. All Star team just beat the Eastern Little League All-Star team 16 - 12. It was a very exciting game. Lots of hits (and lots of errors) early on. Central was behind 10-12 before the 5th inning rally - then they came back. AOSB played right field and 2nd base. He was up only once - and he was hit by the pitch, took his base and was thrown out at 2nd when the next player hit. I went to the game. Curling Man was coaching Hockey girl in the last regular season Little League game at the same time. Red (her team color) won handily. She pitched. Playoffs for that league start next week. But first, semi-final game for All-Starts tomorrow night at 6 p.m.. Stay tuned.

I won, I won!!

You know how people always say they never win? Well, I can't say that, I win sometimes, but usually it's like that casino commercial on TV where they win a pork chop - I win a size XXL sweatshirt with some fugly logo on it, or I win 4 passes to the local Moster truck rally or some other thing I can't imagine wanting/using. This time I won something I ACTUALLY WANT! More importantly my kids really, really (as in they've been begging for it incessantly for the past many months) want it. I won a Wii!! Now, a few months ago, when I would have told you we're never getting a Wii, I wouldn't have been all that excited, but since I had now made a commitment to the kids that they could get one if they earned it - it's really sweet to save that couple hundred bucks! Of course, since what they had to do to earn it was not touch each other for 20 days (not in a row - just 20 random days), chances are they wouldn't have earned it until the Wii XVI came out. They have made it 6 days - since the end of May. Clearly, they like to bug each other more than they want a Wii. So now, I have to decide what to do with it. Part of me wants to stick it in the closet until they reach 20 days. The other, much meaner part, wants to set it up, play it, invite friends over to play it and make them just sit and watch until they have earned the right to play it themselves. Maybe it will give them the extra incentive they need to get those additional 14 days.

It's Baseball season

So July is not a time for hockey, well actually it is. We were in Breezy Point this weekend for a tournament. The Northern Wings, Hockey Girl's AAA team, was in a 10U (this means 10 and under, which really means age 10 as of July 1, 2007 since this is still technically part of last season), so lots of the girls were 11 years old - and many were the size of say 16 year-olds. That is everyone on the *other team. Our team has mostly 9 and 10 year olds. Yes, I am already making excuses for our pitiful 0-6 showing at the tournament. I felt so bad for our girls. They played some darn good hockey. They also played some not-so-good hockey, but they had fun!



We stayed in the dorms at the arena. As our coach repeatedly reminds me, I'm high maintenance (that's Chai Maintenance for all you Jews out there - we're not JAPs for nothin') - so I was not thrilled with the idea of sleeping in a dorm on those lousy mattresses they reserve for camp bunk beds. I was willing to sacrifice so that Hockey Girl could stay with her team (I did not consider for a minute the fact that we were saving $200+ dollars by staying there instead of at the local motel - lesson learned - do not enter hockey tournaments in the Lakes District of Minnesota in the summer). Since she's also CM - she also considered it quite a sacrifice. Dorms weren't awful - yes, the beds were pretty bad. Yes, we had to share a bathroom and showers (the kind where the floors never get a chance to get dry). Yes, there were mice running around the dining area when the first families arrived, but they weren't awful. They did have a nice common area with large TVs (on which the Dads could watch sports and the kids could watch Nick or the Disney Channel - for some reason it was never on TLC, TNT, Lifetime or any other channel the Hockey Moms might enjoy watching). They also had a great outdoor grill area and fire pit - which would have been so much fun, but for the 55 degree temps and the sustained 25 MPH winds. Being hearty northern Minnesotans, we built a fire and made S'mores anyway, but we all got headaches and sore eyes from the smoke. Coach has decided we need to do a winter tournament there and try the dorms in the winter - ummm - I don't *think so. Go ahead, call me Chai Maintenance - Hotel rooms will be a dime a dozen in the winter - no way am I sleeping with the mice who will have moved indoors full time when the weather gets bad.



While Hockey Girl and I were in the dorms, Curling Man was at his annual cabin party in Ely, MN. Since what happens in Ely stays in Ely, I don't really know what all he did. I do know what he didn't do, though. He didn't go to All-Other-Sports Boy(AOSB)'s 1st All-Star baseball game. What kind of Basebal Dad is he anyway? So, without any parental support, the Central Little League All-Star Team lost game one 17-9 (in extra innings). AOSB had a great time he said, but it's never fun to lose. Fortunately for him, it's a double elimination tournament, so they can still go all the way. Monday night they had game 2. Curling Man returned from Ely unscathed, and he went to that game, while I brought Hockey Girl to her regular league baseball game. That game ended in exciting 10-9 win for Central Little League. Last night they played again, and again - they rallied from being behind 5 runs to a 6-5 win. Grandpa Chuck and Grandma Nancy came all the way up from the Twin Cities to watch, and AOSB only played one inning, but what an exciting game! So, tonight is game 4 - GO Central!!!